Getting Married
I have loved and lived with Robert Ross for 20 years and in our 21 year, after all this time, I am truly hoping that we can get married! We’ve been talking about it for a long time and I actually proposed a couple of years ago on a cruise we took with our best friends. And I am sure we would have already tied the knot if a lot of unforeseen circumstances had not all occurred, seemingly simultaneously. You see, we had invested almost all our savings with our “best friend” and have been waiting for what we were promised was to be the “windfall of a lifetime” to manifest. The problem is that it was supposed to happen for the last 2 years and still hasn’t. As you can imagine, this has caused unbelievable stress to us, our relationship which thank God is even stronger than ever, and our friends and family who were caught up in our misfortune.
And so we have been waiting for our ship to finally come in so we could celebrate our love for each other and all our friends, including the one with all our money, with a great party. Well we are still waiting, but my parents are having very big health issues and we are running out of time, and at the same time the battle over our right to marry has now left California as not an option for the moment. We had hoped to have a small wedding in Palm Springs and have my brother, who is a retired Superior Court Judge, officiate. I hope we can do it still, next June, somewhere nice, because Robert and I are no longer going to wait for our money to come in order to celebrate our love for each other. If we have to, we will just make it a smaller celebration that we can afford and hope that someday, our old friend will live up to his promise and make it possible for us to through the biggest, grandest party we could imaging for all our wonderful friends and family.
John Posey — February 17, 2009 @ 6:44 pm
Good lord what a handsome couple! Congratulations! /perhaps one day the whole world (including mormons and republicans) will become enlightenedl–and wont we all rejoice then in the celebration of equal rights and ALL love!
Patrick — June 3, 2009 @ 11:51 am
I listened to one of your speech and I read your post and can only hope that you will get married soon (or may be have are already married by now). Stories as yours need to be out there for people to know and understand gay love, friendship and companionship. I have been with my American partner for twelve years now in a long distance relationship. It is hard but we know we are each other’s mate. We hope progress in LGBT rights to marry and other Federal benefits will come soon for us to be together in his country. Otherwise, we will opt for Brazil.
Great read and you two form a wonderful couple.