Ask Rhonda - Young Dating
Dear Rhonda,
I am a 41 year old gay man and have been dating a 22 year old for the past six
weeks. I am the youngest of my group of friends and most of them have
been telling me that I am crazy. Am I delusional or is there a chance
at all that this will work?
Thanks,
Cou-gay
Dear Cou-gay (love the spin on Demi Moore’s inspired “Cougar” title),
First of all, I have to say that I am thrilled to finally get a
question from my silent (but clearly prevalent) gay audience. I knew
you were out there.
My first reaction was YIKES! Twenty-two?? And not for the reasons you
may think. It was pure jealousy. That’s right, jealousy. And that’s
exactly why your friends said what they said to you. Deep down, they
may have felt concern and wondered what mid-life fantasy you were
trying to work through (I know which one I am working through just
thinking about it), but WHY the comments shot out of their mouths were
based in 100% pure jealousy. And why shouldn’t they be. Good for you.
Now back to the million dollar question. Does this relationship have a
chance at all? Yes it does my dear Cou-gay. Your relationship has the
same chance of success that Rhonda has of being abducted by a Middle
Eastern terrorist and then falling in love with the terrorist.
I know those odds don’t sound good, but remember it did kinda happen
that way for Patty Hearst, so keep your chin up! What you need to
remember is that true love comes in many shapes, sizes, sexes and
ages. It always comes when least expecte. and it may not look
anything like you expected. Have fun, respect each other’s different
perspectives, be safe and see where it goes (and feel free to send
photos of the twenty-two year old)
Best,
Rhonda
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