On Having A Generous Spirit
I love horse people in general, even though I tend to joke about them a lot. I mean, we are a fanatic group, often probably worthy of having an enormous net dropped on us in which we’d be carried off to some remote island far away from the rest of the “normal world.” But, for the most part, we are fun and funny, smart and driven, hard-working and full of love.
Except when we are ragging on eachother!
As a Dressage rider who has been around the block more than a few times, I’ve been the recipient of my fair share of criticism, some probably earned, and I believe I’ve generally tried to take it like a gentleman. I guess it goes with the territory and I learned to expect it. I also found that, many times, once I was helping our country win a medal somewhere, the very people who had skewered me in the press, were my new best friends. So it all equaled out in the end.
But I try, when I am out teaching symposia around the world, to help everyone remember that, as a rule, all of us who train horses wake up every day wanting to do the very best we can with what we know. I don’t believe that any of us get up and think, “I can’t wait to go ride my horse poorly,” and that goes for amateurs and professionals alike.
Still, for us professionals, with the advances in technology, every move we make, in or out of context, is immediately made available for the world to see… and critique. While the computer has made learning and discussing valid points of training exceedingly accessible, it has also created a monster: the chat room. Now, not all of these sites are bad, but many are simply a place where people can anonymously spew their venom about others without their victims being able to defend themselves, much like graffitti on bathroom walls. Most of them are probably just unhappy individuals with too much time on their hands.
Just remember please what I said about generosity and that all of us are genuinely trying, just as you are, to find our ways through life, with and without horses. And despite our successes or lack thereof, we are all capable of getting our feelings hurt. So when you are about to say something unkind to the world about someone, ask yourself if you are living up to the best possible version of yourself. I bet you will think twice and pass!
Cheers!
RD

Since Phelisha Chandler won The Search For America’s Next Equestrian Star -Dressage two years ago, she worked for me for an entire year as my assistant. Last October, after aa full year apprenticing, Phelisha took a job as assistant to Tuny Page where she is doing as great a job as she did for me.


















