I bet it’s not often you could say about someone that they became your hero when they made you cry, but that’s exactly what happened with my Hero for June, David Mixner.
Now, I can already hear my friends and family who know me saying, “Wait a minute here! You cry for every show on Animal Planet, Extreme Makeover - Home Edition, and if somebody hums the chorus of Puff The Magic Dragon (which I still, to this day, believe was about a poor dragon who dies at the end of the song :().
But here’s the thing. In 2007, at the annual Empire State Pride Agenda Fall Benefit, just as I had done many times before, I sat listening to politicians and public speakers (even Hillary!) talk about the many issues near and dear to every Gay person’s heart. When they come to speak to the many hundreds of very well dressed, educated, and highly motivated members of the audience, we all pretty much know that, unless they have some kind of a death wish(figuratively speaking of course), they are going to tell us approximately what we want to hear. And they do just that - about gay marriage, discrimination, gays in the military, gay adoption, and many other relevant issues.
But then came David Mixner on the stage, and here was a whole different story. I am going to tell you right now that I will include, for your reading pleasure, David’s biography at the end of this article, because his political and private journeys are just amazing and wonderful reading. I will simply say that, from the time of his birth in 1946, David has fought for not just the rights of Gay people, but for the civil, and supposedly God-given rights of all people- Union folk looking for fair treatment, African Americans along side Martin Luther King, and those against the war in Vietnam, Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, Nuclear Armament, and AIDS. And when I say he fought, what I mean is that he did so as if he were in a war! David organized, from beginning to end, the huge marches on everything from City Halls to the White House, sometimes getting arrested for his convictions, but never backing down from walking the walk which great people know is necessary if they are to fulfill their destiny and those of others.
Now, here’s the thing - none of that made me cry! So what did it, you ask?
This is it - David Mixner stood on the stage and I could feel the pain of his life, as if I had lived it with him. He told me (I say me because I truly thought I was the only person in the room and he was talking quietly, in his INCREDIBLY HUMBLE way) about his youth and coming out personally and politically in Los Angeles. He was a founding member of our country’s very first gay and lesbian Political Action Committee, the Municipal Elections Committee of Los Angeles. David spoke about the meetings this group would have in dark rooms and bars in back alleys, always having to be on the look-out for police or others who might harm them just because they were gay. This was before the fighting in the streets of Stonewall, when gays had decided they had enough with police brutality and fought back, literally, causing a world-wide sensation and resulting in, I truly believe, my ability to enjoy my life as I have it now.
I was crying because this man standing there, acting like he didn’t really understand why anyone would make such a fuss over him,told his story which included losing his lover and business partner, Peter Scott, of AIDS, and I knew he was and is responsible for changing my world. And short of running up on the stage while sobbing to personally thank him right before being carted off by security, all I could do was remember how deeply he affected me, with the hope that someday I could let him know how much I appreciate him.
And that is why David Mixner is my “Out For Good Hero” for June.
RD
David Mixner
David Mixner (born August 16, 1946) is a civil rights activist and best-selling author. He is best known for his work in anti-war and gay rights advocacy.
Childhood
David Benjamin Mixner was born on August 16, 1946, near the town of Elmer in southern New Jersey. His father Ben worked on a corporate farm, and his mother Mary worked shifts at a local glass factory and later took a job as a bookkeeper for the local John Deere dealership. David has two older siblings, Patsy Mixner Annison and Melvin Mixner. Mixner attended Daretown Elementary School, then Woodstown High School, where he got involved in the Civil Rights movement, by participating in picketing and sending his own money to Martin Luther King, Jr. In his bestselling memoir, Stranger Among Friends, Mixner explains that his parents were “livid” over his involvement in the Civil Rights movement, claiming his activism embarrassed them. When Mixner told them he wanted to go south during the summer of 1963 after following the events in Birmingham, Alabama, his parents forbade him.[1]
College and Early Activism
In the fall of 1964, Mixner enrolled at Arizona State University in Tempe, Arizona, where he soon became heavily involved in civil rights and anti-war activism, including helping to organize protests against a speech by General William Westmoreland. Prompted by an article he read in The Arizona Republic about city garbage workers who were seeking the right to unionize, in the fall of 1966, Mixner organized from start to finish the first of many protests he would organize over the next thirty years. Mixner rallied hundreds of workers, students and professors and led a march on City Hall. Although the city successfully broke the strike, the workers eventually earned the right to unionize. Mixner also experienced his first same-sex relationship at ASU, with a man whom he refers to as Kit in his memoirs. A year into their relationship, Kit was killed in an automobile accident. Mixner did not attend the funeral, and Kit’s parents never discovered that their son was gay. Soon after Kit’s death, Mixner decided to transfer to the University of Maryland in order to be closer to Washington, D.C., where he would be able to get more involved in anti-war protests. Mixner found himself much more interested in activism than in pursuing a college degree. While at Maryland, Mixner was a grassroots organizer for the 1967 march on the Pentagon, which was later captured in Norman Mailer’s Armies of the Night.
McCarthy Presidential Campaign
Later that year, Mixner dropped out of college and began working for the presidential campaign of Eugene McCarthy. One of Mixner’s first assignments was organizing the Minnesota operation, helping McCarthy win the Minnesota caucus, defeating incumbent President Lyndon B. Johnson. Later, Mixner and other members of McCarthy’s campaign team went to Georgia to help select an alternative delegation to send to the national convention in Chicago, challenging Governor Lestor Maddox’s hand-picked delegation, which included only seven African-Americans in the 117 person delegation. The Georgia Democratic Party Forum, which sought to challenge Maddox’s delegation, held its own convention in Macon, where Congressman John Conyers (D–MI) keynoted their convention before turning over the floor to Julian Bond, the first African-American elected to the Georgia legislature, who would later become Chairman of the NAACP.[2] At the 1968 Democratic National Convention in Chicago, Mixner was beaten by police during the protests held outside the convention center. After Humphrey claimed the nomination, Mixner began seeking out new outlets for his activism. He soon befriended Doris Kearns Goodwin, who introduced Mixner to Senator Ted Kennedy, who would become a lifelong friend.
Democratic Party Delegate Selection Committee
In early 1969, Mixner was invited to join the Delegate Selection Committee, which had been created during the 1968 Democratic National Convention. Although Mixner’s appointment turned out to be a mistake, as Senator Fred R. Harris of Oklahoma was supposed to invite Mixner to join the less powerful Rules Committee, he nonetheless made his mark on the twenty-eight member body, which included Warren Christopher, who would later become Secretary of State, Senator Birch Bayh of Indiana, Senator Harold Hughes of Iowa, Senator Adlai Stevenson III of Illinois and Senator George McGovern of South Dakota, who served as the Committee’s Chairman.[3] By virtue of his inadvertent inclusion on the Delegate Selection Committee, Mixner served as his generation’s lone voice, and he intended the use the platform to raise the issue of the violence at the previous year’s convention. When Senator Kennedy, a close friend of Chicago Mayor Richard J. Daley and the party’s front-runner for the 1972 Presidential nomination, took the witness stand, Mixner used the opportunity to ask Kennedy if he would publicly condemn both the tactics used by the Chicago police and the Mayor for his involvement. Kennedy dodged the question. Subsequently, Adlai Stevenson III sought to exclude Mixner from a committee meeting in Chicago where Mayor Daley was scheduled to testify. McGovern called Mixner, asking him not to attend, but Mixner refused. When he arrived for the meeting, drawing the ire of Senator Stevenson, McGovern offered him a compromise, promising to ask Daley to apologize for the violence and offer all those arrested amnesty if Mixner agreed to stay quiet. The resulting exchange between McGovern and Daley, included Daley’s insistence that “If people violate the law they should accept the consequences of the law.”[4] The McGovern Commission, which had set out to reform the Presidential nomination process in order to avoid a repeat of the 1968 Convention, eventually issued its recommendations, including the requirement that all delegates be directly elected by the people, eviscerating the power of political bosses to control the nomination process.
The Moratorium to End the War in Vietnam
Mixner’s most significant contribution to the anti-Vietnam War effort was his role as one of the head organizers of the Moratorium to End the War in Vietnam. The idea was prompted by Jerome Grossman, a Massachusetts businessman active in the peace movement. Grossman proposed to Sam Brown, a close friend of Mixner, that they set aside a day in 1969 where “business as usual” would come to a halt, essentially engaging in a strike against everything. Brown decided that the word “moratorium” would be less threatening than “strike” to middle-class Americans, and set to work, setting aside October 15, 1969 as the day of the moratorium. Brown soon enlisted the help of Mixner, David Hawk, another young activist, and Marge Sklencar, who they knew from the McCarthy campaign. Brown, Mixner, Hawk and Sklencar then set about organizing the event. In September 1969, shortly before the Moratorium, Mixner headed to Martha’s Vineyard to meet with fellow activists, many of whom had also worked on the McCarthy campaign. Among those in attendance was Bill Clinton, who had been invited by one of Mixner’s friends. At the time, Clinton was studying at Oxford on a Rhodes Scholarship, attending the Martha’s Vineyard retreat with fellow Rhodes Scholars Rick Stearns and Strobe Talbott. Mixner and Clinton were fast friends, and Mixner would play a significant role twenty-three years later in getting the LGBT community to support Clinton. As the date of the Moratorium approached, it began gathering a great deal of momentum, with Time, Life, and Newsweek magazines featuring it in cover stories. When Clinton subsequently visited the headquarters of the Moratorium and saw what he would be missing by being in London on October 15, he suggested to Mixner that he organize a parallel protest at Oxford. This protest, in which about a thousand people gathered in front of the American embassy in London, would later be a significant issue in his presidential campaign, with President George H. Bush telling Larry King on CNN in October 1992, “Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but to go to a foreign country and demonstrate against your own country when your sons and daughters are dying halfway around the world, I am sorry but I think that is wrong.”[5] The Moratorium drew millions of people throughout the country, who gathered in public places and read the names of the soldiers killed in Vietnam aloud.[6] The day was capped off by a march at the Washington Monument, where Coretta Scott King, the widow of Martin Luther King, Jr., spoke about her late husband’s passion for ending the war.
MECLA (Municipal Elections Committee of Los Angeles)
In 1976, Mixner began the process of coming out of the closet, and soon thereafter was a founding member of the Municipal Elections Committee of Los Angeles (MECLA), the nation’s first gay and lesbian Political Action Committee. At the time, very few candidates were willing to accept donations from openly gay individuals or gay-affiliated organizations. At the time, Mixner was also serving as the campaign manager for Tom Bradley, the mayor of Los Angeles who was seeking reelection, so while he worked to raise funds for MECLA, his involvement was kept secret because of the potential for his sexuality to become an issue in Bradley’s campaign.
NO on 6
Soon after Bradley won reelection easily, Mixner turned his focus to fighting Proposition 6, an initiative placed on the California ballot by Orange County State Senator John Briggs that would make it illegal for gays and lesbians to be schoolteachers. Similar initiatives had recently passed throughout the country when Mixner turned his focus to fighting Proposition 6, creating the “NO on 6” organization to fight it; through the process, he would publicly come out of the closet.[7] Mixner and his lover Peter Scott secured a meeting with then-Governor Ronald Reagan, whom they convinced to oppose the initiative publicly. As a result, and through the work of Mixner, Scott, legendary gay rights activist and San Francisco City Councilman Harvey Milk, and others, Proposition 6 was defeated by over a million votes, the first ballot initiative of its sort to be shot down.[8] As a result of this huge success, Mixner and Scott experienced a huge upturn in business for their fledgling political consulting firm, Mixner/Scott, and were asked by Bill Clinton, then running for governor of Arkansas, to host a reception for Clinton at their Los Angeles home.
The Great Peace March for Global Nuclear Disarmament
In late 1984, after years of devastation in his personal life resulting from the AIDS crisis, Mixner decided to focus his energy on combating nuclear proliferation, creating an organization named PRO Peace. Mixner envisioned finding five thousand Americans who would take a year out of their lives to walk across America to advocate for disarmament, holding rallies throughout the country. The Great Peace March for Global Nuclear Disarmament, which Mixner would later call his “biggest political failure and [his] biggest regret” ultimately left Los Angeles on March 1, 1986 with only 1200 marchers. [9] Mixner would spend many years paying the consequences, which included fighting lawsuits and paying employment taxes for his employees. The lore of the march lives on, however, immortalized in songs, books, and film.
AIDS
Shortly after Mixner experienced professional success in 1985, helping defeat Proposition 64, a ballot initiative proposed by Lyndon LaRouche that would require quarantining people with AIDS, Mixner learned that his long-time lover and business partner, Peter Scott, had AIDS. Scott would fight the disease for four years; he died on May 13, 1989. While Scott fought the disease, Mixner formed an organization that spearheaded legislation that would create a California alternative to the FDA, enabling California to deal more aggressively with the AIDS epidemic than the federal government. Mixner’s group enlisted the support of California Attorney General John Van de Kamp, then convinced Governor George Deukmejian to sign AB 1952, which, as described by van de Kamp, “mandates the director of DHS to implement the drug testing and sale authority that he had under existing law, for the purpose of approving the testing and sale either of an AIDS vaccine, or of new drugs that offer a reasonable possibility of treating people who have been infected with the AIDS virus.” [10]
Four years after a fundraiser for the Dukakis campaign told Mixner that Governor Dukakis would not accept the million dollars Mixner and his friends planned to raise for him, Mixner found hope in the candidacy of his old friend, Bill Clinton. After Clinton promised Mixner that he would support both an end to the ban on gays in the military and increased funds to find a cure for AIDS, Mixner began raising money for Clinton enthusiastically. Mickey Kantor, Clinton’s campaign chairman, soon asked Mixner to join the National Executive Committee of the Clinton for President campaign, the first openly gay person to become a public face of a presidential campaign. After Clinton was elected, Mixner helped with the transition team, though he publicly declared that he would not seek an appointment with the new administration. Although he spoke at an event at the inaugural ball, introduced by his old friend Ted Kennedy, Mixner soon thrust himself in the middle of the furor over the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy proposed by Clinton, which represented a total betrayal to Mixner and many in the gay community. When Mixner went on Nightline to complain about Clinton’s rapid shift away from allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly in the military, his calls to the White House stopped being returned and his consulting business began to tank, as he was no longer perceived as someone who had influence with the new administration. Emanuel was widely reported to be furious with Mixner for publicly crossing swords with Mixner; Mixner soon found himself a persona non grata at the White House.[11] Shortly thereafter, Mixner participated in a march in Washington for the Campaign for Military Service, which advocated lifting the bans on gays in the military. When Clinton announced the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy on July 19, 1993, Mixner organized a march with CMS and was very publicly arrested outside the White House, for which he received a great deal of publicity because of his personal relationship with Clinton.[12] Mixner and Clinton later healed the rift, but Clinton never again revisited the policy during his Presidency.
Books
David is the bestselling author of Stranger Among Friends, an autobiography published in 1996, and Brave Journeys: Profiles in Gay and Lesbian Courage, published in 2001.
Yale David Mixner Collection
On November 3, 2005, the Yale University Library officially created the David Benjamin Mixner collection, which houses his personal collection of books, papers, films and other materials relating to his involvement in civil rights issues.[13]
Today
In 2006, Mixner moved to Turkey Hollow in Sullivan County, New York, where he currently resides in a bright yellow house with his two cats, Sheba and Uganda. He posts blog entries daily on his website, davidmixner.com. He was recently featured in the Real Estate section of the New York Times in an article entitled, “Do Ask, Do Tell.”[14] David is the keynote speaker for the Empire State Pride Agenda’s 2007 fall dinner.
I had been pondering the question of whom I thought worthy of being named my “Out For Good” Hero for July, and then It happened - Micheal Jackson died. His untimely death affected me in far greater ways than I ever imagined it could. Now, many people might question my calling Micheal a hero, considering the turbulent nature of his later part of his life. But here’s the thing - he was found NOT GUILTY of any wrong-doing and, though he did settle with another child’s family out of court, in my heart I believe he did so in order to spare himself the thing he most dreaded - being placed under public condemnation. If I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that Micheal was guilty, I would never consider him a hero, regardless of anything else he may have done, but I honestly think he was innocent. Sure, he made some very poor decisions, both having children sleep in his bed and holding his own baby over the hotel railing, among other things. Still, I believe he acted more like a child himself in these instances and never thought of hurting anyone, especially not the kids he held most dearly.
In the world of politics, being gay has not generally been synonymous with upward mobility or even something one might want to bring up in public. That is, unless that someone is Sean Maloney. First, let me tell you that Robert and I met Sean almost 8 years ago at an 
They are by any measure, a wonderful family, full of laughter and love, and beyond all the truly amazing things that Sean Patrick Maloney has done, raising these kids with Randy is still my favorite, just as I know it’s his!
I am a little embarrassed to confess that I have walked the very fine line between “fan” and “stalker” in the case of my Dover’s World Hero for April, Ellen DeGeneres. Wait! Now, I’m not saying I’m one of those “Call the Swat Team” or “Tell the judge to get a restraining order” kinda folk. What I’m saying is that, of all the people I would like to meet in my life, Ellen is among the top 3. (The other 2 are Barack Obama and Bill Clinton)
I can think of no greater hero in my life than my life-partner of 20 years, Robert Ross. It’s not just because I know exactly what he’s had to deal with for the past two decades of being my beloved. Yes, the rumours that I am slightly high maintenance just might be true, but it is really everything else about Robert’s life that puts him in a class of his own. 
